First off I want to say Thank you for your support and your friendship. It really has meant a lot to me over the years.
However, I’m looking for a way to make a more mindful connection with each of you. Which means I need to make a conscious effort to make time… which means I need to change some things. I hope you will understand! In case you don’t, allow me to explain why it is important that I do so.
When my mother passed away a couple of years ago, I lost more than my mother. I lost her stories.
As I dealt with my loss I realized my mistake. I was so busy with my own life. I didn’t call enough. I didn’t visit enough. There was so much on my plate that I didn’t know how to make room. I always figured I would have more time. I needed to get through obstacle A or stressor B and then I would have time. There was always time to do stuff… later. Well-meaning friends and family members reassured me that I would have time. I wanted to believe them, so I did.
Until I didn’t have a choice anymore.
Later had come and I found that it didn’t come with a warning.
Things that I thought were more important, were really not that important in the end. Since then I tell myself all the time that if I knew what was coming I would have made time.
Which is why I feel like I am making a fatal mistake… again.
There is something about the death of a loved one that will change your perspective or even your priorities. For that I am thankful. It has helped me to reframe what my family means to me and to be more present with each of them. But there is something essential missing. My mother’s stories and the stories before her are missing… and if I don’t write my stories down, what I know and remember becomes lost forever.
Including the moments we are living now.
Which is why lately I am enamored by Chatbooks. I’m think about using their service to print books, but it is limited to what is uploaded …and I don’t know if it really gives you room to add more thoughts to it… or does it? Or is there something that does this already?
Anyhoo. The point is I want to focus on being me and sometimes being online it feels like I am the only one willing to be myself… willing to reach out to another human being and connect with them… perhaps imperfectly, but authentically.
My personal goal for 2017 is to write and send more postcards/greeting cards/ letters to friends and family. Which is why I want to start a Posting Cards challenge.
I know that sometimes we have writers block and we are not sure what to say, so I’ll share ideas to jog your brain. Feel free to share some of your own!
If like myself you feel the call to share your stories, whether on your blog, through a smash/scrapbook, or with paper and pen offline, come join our support group!
But what about Wandering for Winks?
Well it looks like the people in our group who like to share winks, are more likely to do it on Instagram. It’s more intuitive. So the group is going away but I’ll use a hashtag so we can see each other’s winks. I’ll also use the Facebook Page to share those winks. You can either link your Instagram pic or upload your pic/thoughts into the Facebook comment section.
I complicated this and now I need to simplify it. Since the group is going away… the giveaways are going back on the Facebook page or on my Instagram account. I’ll announce them 2 weeks in advance on the blog to give everyone a heads up. So if that is something you don’t want to miss out on, make sure you head over to the blog.
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I noticed a drop in engagement. Was it me? Was it something I said?
I’m not entirely sure if you like what I have shared in the group or on my page. I would love it if you “liked” and commented on the stuff you appreciate… and especially the stuff you don’t like. Feel free to drop a comment or message me. I’m not going to change who I am or allow someone to bully me, but as a friend I would want to hear your thoughts and concerns. Especially if you carry a certain perspective I may not have understood before.
Basically don’t ever be afraid to be my friend or assume because we don’t agree on one topic that I harbor ill feelings towards you. When we stop talking that’s when we have problems. But if that isn’t it, and we have simply been too busy to connect, I would like to take the time to invite you back to the conversation!
Okay so that sums up the changes in the group, your invitation to join our Postcard Challenge group, and if you feel moved to write down your stories before they are too late… our Life on Paper group.
Ready to join? Click on the Orange group titles or the group’s photo to take you to the group you want to join!
See you on the other side! 😉